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My Six Months No Alcohol Challenge Update
Oh man, this post is overdue! I completed this challenge almost a year ago. I am just going to tell you upfront: It was one of the best things I have ever done.
Beyond the physical benefits I described in my previous post, including better sleep, better skin, better belly, feeling better, etc., I finally did something for myself that I never found the courage to do before- I enrolled in and completed a Yoga Teacher Training Program. Since then, I have taught well over a hundred yoga classes and LOVE it! It’s truly a dream come true. I think that’s the biggest difference doing this no alcohol challenge made for me- instead of just dreaming, I started doing. I also had the energy needed to keep going the whole time.
What’s the answer to the burning question- did I keep going with the challenge after the six months? I did not. A few weeks after the challenge ended, I had a cocktail at my parents’ anniversary party. I also drink wine weekly. I am a lot more mindful now about drinking it these days. I am aware that when I have it- even one glass- I am not at my best the next day. So, why have it then? Well, it’s something I enjoy, not unlike a lovely dessert. While I know that a good chocolate chip is not the healthiest choice either, I don’t want to abstain from them for the rest of my life. As long as I don’t overindulge in wine (or cookies) then I am comfortable with enjoying them responsibly.
I have to admit though, I am curious what it might be like to do a No Alcohol Challenge for a whole year. So, there may be a post about that in the future.
TV-Free January Challenge: The Results
When I told a friend of mine that I would not be watching TV in January, her response was, “you picked one of the longest, coldest, darkest months of the year to go without television???”
I had to admit when she put it that way I was a little nervous I might not get through the whole month but I did with one exception. I found out that my favorite vintage TV show was back on the air. So, I allowed myself one hour a week. I still call that a success.
So, what happened when I stopped watching TV? For starters, I read more. I finished four books, started two more and listened to a lengthy audiobook. I was very pleased as reading again was one of my goals when I started this little experiment.
Another aspiration was to sleep more. The first night I did but then it got more challenging again. My insomnia not only thundered back, it brought a friend- an ear worm named Mr Jones. During the first week, I heard the catchy Counting Crows song and it stayed with me for the rest of the month. Every quiet moment and especially between 1AM and 4AM that song plagued me. It felt like I would never get it out of my head. (The antidote turned out to be Everybody Have Fun Tonight (Everybody Wang Chung Tonight) Who would have guessed that?)
My suspicion is that without the distraction TV normally provides my brain, my “monkey mind” (as meditators like to call it) was going into overdrive to deal with the change. Our brains don’t like change and we are hard-wired to resist it. It’s a well-intentioned effort by our brains to keep us safe. Familiarity is good. Change is scary to our brains because we don’t know what is going to happen. Even something seemingly insignificant like not watching television can have an impact if it is departure from the norm.
My brain may have been on to something because without the mind-numbing diversion of television, I started to become very aware of how tired I have been for a very long time. Chronic Fatigue is not a new thing for me but I have learned a lot over the decades on how to deal with it. I realized during this challenge that I had stopped doing things that helped and started doing things that didn’t. One example is my diet had become less than stellar.
I have remained a vegetarian for over 20 years and dairy-free for over 10 but I had started eating eggs again a little over a year ago. Worse than that, I was relying too often on processed foods like dairy-free cheese, margarine, bread and pasta. Of course, I had become used to eating these things in front of the TV to boot. Now, I am preparing food mostly from scratch again and including lots of fruit, salads, veggies, nuts and seeds. Eggs are off the menu again. I am starting to feel better and… (drum roll) SLEEP BETTER!
I have one caveat to share before I wrap this post up. I noticed that when I stopped watching TV that my internet time increased. I was watching a lot of Youtube videos. Youtube is a good resource when you want to learn about something you are thinking about trying. I realized though that I was swapping one screen for another. I didn’t need to watch 20 videos on how to make Kombucha. One or two would have sufficed. Not to mention- I received The Art of Fermentation by Sandor Katz for Christmas.
Going TV-free for January turned out to be a really worthwhile challenge. I am making changes as a result that are having a positive impact on my life. So, I decided to keep going to see what other improvements can be made. What do you think would improve your life if you stopped doing it?
A Hard Goodbye
Last week, someone I have known for 30 years passed away. He was the father of a very dear friend. This was not the first time a parent of a friend passed but in those other situations, I didn’t really know their parents. I may have been introduced to them once at an event and that was the sum total of our acquaintance.
Mr. Z was different. He was more like family to me than a parent of a friend. He was a kind and gentle soul. He treated me like one of the family. I was warmly welcomed by him and Mrs. Z at holidays and other family events. He never just gave me the perfunctory “hello, how are you?” greeting. He would hug me and ask me what seemed liked a billion questions. He really cared about me and wanted to know that I was doing well.
When I got the call, I wasn’t exactly surprised. I knew his health had been deteriorating over the last 10 years, and more rapidly for the last six months, but I still hadn’t let myself contemplate that the end of the road was near for him.
I believe in God. It is a comfort to me at a time such as this to know that Mr. Z is in a better place. I realize his body had gotten tired and was no longer able to support him. His passing was in many ways was a blessing. Yet, I still feel the pain and sorrow that comes with knowing that there will be no more hugs or questions. Having known Mr. Z for so long, it felt like he would always be there. I realize that’s not a logical thought but that’s the way I felt.
Hard goodbyes like Mr. Z remind me of how fragile life can be. We get so caught up in the small stuff of life, we forget (or ignore) the fact that no one gets out alive. I am very aware at the moment of how vulnerable we all are. I think the best way to honor Mr. Z’s life is not to fear death but to embrace life instead by celebrating and being grateful for the opportunities to have known people like him.
When Something Goes Wrong in The Best Possible Way
My tire pressure light had been coming on and then going out for over a year. I mentioned it to my mechanic whenever I got an oil change or inspection, then he would check the pressure and send me on my way.
So, when I was driving home recently and it came on, I wasn’t surprised. However, this time it was accompanied by a familiar thwop thwop thwop noise. I had a flat and started praying I made it to somewhere that I could safely pull over before it completely deflated. I made it to a gas station and called Triple A.
The phone attendant was very nice but my heart dropped a little when she said it would take 40 minutes to an hour for someone to get to me. I busied myself with getting all the crap out that I had stored in the hatchback. I had barely finished when a van pulled up next to me. It had been less than 10 minutes but sure enough, my help had arrived! Matt had the donut on and my deflated tire in the back in what seemed like no time at all.
I asked him if I could drive on the donut long enough to pick up ICE MELT on my way home. He smiled and explained that the donut is a 50/50 tire. “As long as you don’t drive over 50 miles an hour or for more than 50 miles, you will be fine.” I thanked him and we were both on our perspective ways.
While I was on my way to the Big Box store to get the ICE MELT, I noticed that the bay was open at MAAVIS tire. It was almost 6PM and I figured they must be on the verge of closing. It was worth a try though because I had an early meeting at work the next morning. I went into the office, prepared to beg for mercy. No groveling was necessary, however, as it turned out to be their late night. What are the chances of getting a flat on MAAVIS’ late night? The guys let me leave the tire there while I went to pick up the ICE MELT. Shortly after I returned, my tire was patched and I was on my way.
I actually made it home in time to stop at the library before it closed and return an overdue book. I raced in literally as they were about to lock the door. The woman at the circulation desk said she couldn’t take it because she already shut the machine off. Then another woman at the children’s desk said she could sign it in for me.
Getting a flat tire is not exactly fun but I felt such gratitude for everything that transpired afterward. I couldn’t have asked for a better outcome under the circumstances. It was almost magical.
Have Extra Time? Do Something Meaningful.
I woke up at 4 AM. For me, this was a good thing. As an often insomniac, I frequently wake up between 2:00 AM and 2:45 AM and then spend three hours trying to go back to sleep, only to doze off for 15 minutes or so before I need to get up.
So, waking up at 4 AM and getting the better part of seven hours of sleep was like winning a little lottery this morning. Having some quiet time to myself while the rest of the world is still sleeping felt like quite a treat. How best to savor it?
I wrote for over an hour. I have a new book idea and I wanted to start getting it down. So, it was the perfect time to do it. Will it be a best-seller or get published for that matter… I don’t know. I do know that it was time better spent than on watching TV or clicking around social media. How you start the day is important. It can set the tone for the rest of the day. So, it’s the best time to do what matters the most to you.
We Forget We Are All The Same
I was watching Accidental Courtesy last night. It’s a documentary about Daryl Davis, a black musician who befriends Ku Klux Klan members in his spare time.
I admired Davis for having the courage and open-heartedness to reach out to people who are determined to be his enemy because of his skin color. Over the years, Davis has won over many white supremacists through his willingness to hear them and extend his hand in friendship. Dozens of high-ranking former Klan members have even given Davis their robes when they left the KKK. It was heartening to see someone succeeding at making the world a better place.
Near the end of the film, the mood shifted a bit when this peaceful, generous man was forced to defend himself by Kwame Rose of the Black Lives Matter movement. Rose accused Davis of wasting his time with white supremacists when he could have been doing more to help his own people. A heated exchange ensued and Rose stormed off, unwilling to listen Davis’ point of view. It was painful to watch a young man be so disrespectful to this wonderful pacifist. It was also difficult to see Davis lose his cool a little with Rose, when he manages to have civil dialogues with people who express deeply disturbing white supremacist views.
It seems to me that there is room for more than one approach when comes to dealing with hate and injustice. Although, things will always break down when we stop talking to each other, deciding that our way is the only way.
My First Youtube Video – DIY Fire Starter
https://youtu.be/ztXg-7d-txo


