Yesterday kicked my ass! It’s the only way to describe it. Yesterday was so bad that I still felt crappy and sad when I woke up this morning. I could tell you why but I think it would be more productive to chat about getting over it.
I admire people who can instantly compartmentalize hurt, anger and disappointment. I want to be one. I tell myself when life gets me down to just put it out of my mind and not let another moment get ruined. It seems simple enough but I find it so hard! I am the type of person who always ruminates about what went wrong, even when I don’t want to. I replay the frustrating or painful scene over and over in a futile attempt to make sense of it. Sometimes, I think of things that I wish I had said (or hadn’t!)
Enough! Life is too short to be miserable! I decided the best way to get back in a better frame of mine was too take care of myself. My first order of business was to get some exercise. Coincidentally, I needed to drop off my car for an inspection. Even though the weather is sort of gloomy today, it wasn’t cold or rainy. I found walking to and from the garage pleasant. Seeing Spring budding all around and listening to the birds, newly returned from their winter dwellings, was soothing for me. I find that I crave a connection with nature the most when I have been through something stressful.
When I got back, I took the dogs for a walk too. Often, I’ve read the best way to help yourself feel better is to help someone else. The dogs always seem so happy when they get a walk, it’s hard not to get caught up in their enthusiasm. My Chauncy makes the cutest noises while I am putting his leash on, as if he can’t wait another second to get out the door. It’s such a small thing but it makes a big difference in their day.
After we got back, I decided to cook myself a hot lunch. My lunches are usually cold sandwiches while running errands on my lunch hour. So, a hot meal in the middle of the day felt almost luxurious! It was also needed. I tend to not very eat well when I’m upset. So, needless to say, dinner was less than stellar last night. Some good nutrition was definitely required.
Exercise, service, contact with nature and some good food are great ways I have found to lift my mood. Here are some more:
- Stimulate the senses. I have found that filling a room with I scent that I enjoy usually makes me feel better. Lavender is my standby for reducing stress. It’s not called aromatherapy for no reason! Baking bread or some other delish treat is also a good go-to for a happy nose.
- Do something you love doing. It’s hard to feel crappy when I am crocheting or making jewelry. It’s also helpful to have something else to focus on, particularly for those of us who tend to dwell far too long.
- Keep a journal. Sometimes, it can really help to just write out it all out. Not a writer? Speaking to a good friend who is great at listening can release a lot of frustration too.