My birthday has never been a convenient day to celebrate. When I was a little girl, my birthday parties were rarely looked forward to because it meant summer was coming to a close and school was starting soon. As I got older, many friends and family members would be away because it falls on or near Labor Day weekend. So, I have gotten quite used to not celebrating on my actual birthday. This year looked like no exception, as it fell in the middle of the week.
I knew I was going to be alone on my birthday and honestly, as an introverted person, that is absolutely fine with me! I like spending time with people but I also need, make that NEED, time alone. So, normally, a day to myself: to read, practice yoga, write, be in nature, make jewelry or some other artsy-crafty project would suit me down to the ground. However, since it was my birthday, I wanted to do something to celebrate. I decided the best way to do that was to make it a day of gratitude and giving.
My first stop was Target. Since I started all this dental work, my monetary donations have dwindled. So, when I got a gift card from the sales guys at work for Target, I decided to buy food to donate to a local food pantry. I was inspired by Mimi Ikonn’s birthday video for this first deed. (Our plans diverge after that. She gave people free hugs. I’m … not a hugger.) I went over the limit for the gift card but it was worth it. I was pretty happy with my haul:
I also may have gotten a treat for myself.
Okay… two! (It was my birthday after all.)
When I returned home, I wrote out a list of 100 things for which I am grateful. I won’t be sharing this (you’re welcome!) It is a really good exercise to do, especially on a birthday. We are trained by advertisers practically from infancy to think about what we are going to receive on our birthdays. It’s worth taking a moment to appreciate all that we already have.
It’s funny. The landscaping guy broke my car window by accident the day before. Initially, I was pretty annoyed that my birthday was going to start at the glass place. Then I gave myself a little smack-down. How many people in the world would love to have a car in the first place? How many people would love something to eat on their birthday? “#1stworldproblem, Cynthia Lenz! Get over it!” And I did quickly.
I decided not to keep all my gratitude to myself. I wrote out a card to one of my friends expressing how pleased I was to have such a good friend in my life. It was a lot of fun mailing a card to someone else on my birthday. How nice is it to get an unexpected bit of appreciation in the mail? At that moment, knowing I was doing something to bring a bit of cheer to someone else, which no one else knew about, was a gas! I think it will be a new tradition. Thankfully, I have a lot of other people in my life to send cards to.
After I mailed the card and dropped off the donated groceries, I was hungry. So, I had some lunch. Then I took a nice, long nap. Highly recommend a birthday nap, by the way.
My last act of goodwill was to make banana bread for everyone at work the next day. Judging from how often I see people at the vending machine, I figured an unexpected homemade sweet treat would be appreciated.
While the banana bread was in the oven, I sat down to eat dinner. I poured myself a nice glass of sauvignon blanc. The wine was a gift from my buddy, Jack, at work. I told him I would toast to his health and prosperity on my birthday and I did.
I really enjoyed my different kind of birthday. Birthdays have a special energy to them. They remind us we were given the gift of life. Think of what it would be like to never have existed. Impossible! I don’t mean to sound like Pollyanna. Life is really REALLY hard sometimes. Having a little awareness of the beauty, that is all around us every day, makes it much easier to endure those challenges. What better way to celebrate it than by creating a little beauty for others?
Many blessings,
Cynthia
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What a great way to spend your birthday!!!!
Reminding ourselves to be grateful for who and what we have in life is very important and often uplifting…….especially like the new card tradition…..lol…..looking forward to drinks out to celebrate some more!!!!!
Thanks Jenny! 🙂 Me too!!!Yay!!! 😀
You my dear are truly a beautiful person. Beautiful!!!! And I’m so glad to call you friend. What a wonderful way to celebrate. You inspire me. Wow. Awesome… Happy birthday my dear dear friend and yrs you should take time to celebrate life and that we made it another year. Life is beautiful with great friends it is also short. So live each day to the fullest. And just be you. Cause you truly are amazing…. Beautiful blog…
Thank you so much Sylvia! 🙂 Right back at ya, my friend!
What a great day! Life is good.
Yes it was! And yes it is!
Happy Birthday! Forgot you and “The Old Bat” are both September Babes! Hugs!
Same month and same day! 🙂 Best gift she ever got!
A severely belated Happy Birthday to you!! I love love love how you spent your birthday. I try to make mine a day of introspection but I love how focused you were on gratitude and showing your love for others….I see some new birthday traditions on the horizon. Beautiful!!
Thank you 🙂 I think the introspective birthday has a lot of merit. While I think receiving can be delightful, it’s good to give and to think about creating rather than consuming, right? We forget sometimes that we are powerful and creative. A birthday is a good time to remind ourselves of what we can and want to be. Birthday introspection sounds like an excellent idea!